Step 6 – Tips how to create a happiness state of mind
So here we are at step six of “How to Be Happy”, my 7 steps suggestions in finding Happiness.
So far we have learned that:
- Happiness is a choice, our choice to live our life in a happy way,
- Happiness comes from within and we need to work on our happiness every day!
- Happiness is also an attitude of mind, precisely a way to look things in a certain way, a positive way
- Happiness is also a state of mind, which we can create
- Gratitude can unlock our happiness.
- Happiness is in the present moment the only moment we are alive.
Now I would like to talk about other ways that can help us to create and keep up our state of mind of happiness.
APPRECIATE SIMPLE THINGS can definitely help us to be happy.
We live in a modern capitalist society that makes us give importance to materialistic things to be happy so we keep buying not because we really need it but just to feel good. In this way, someone is getting a financially gain while we get just an illusionist and temporarily pleasure and this chain will never end…We keep buying new stuff and more stuff and more stuff, but we are not really happy and probably we end up not even appreciating what we have.
Instead if we can’t afford to buy certain things, we get unhappy but why? Because anyone else has got what we want except us… and it might make us feel different even inferior…
What I am trying to say is that, if we can afford to buy new stuff all the time, is fine but we shouldn’t expect any kind of Happiness from there, but just pleasure, which is fine but as I said previously Pleasure is temporary happiness lasts.
There are a lot of simple and free things that if appreciated can make us happy: a smile from a stranger, a hug from someone we care about, the sounds of the birds singing and so on.
The reason why we don’t normally pay attention to these simple things is that we don’t notice them.
But why don’t we notice them? It is because our attention is focused on our thoughts, which are focused on something that has happened in the past or something that has still to come. Basically, we are not living the present and therefore our attention is not focused on our surroundings. Remember the importance of living in the present, which I talked about in the previous step?
We should also start appreciating the beauty of nature, it can even help us to gain awareness and connection to our surrounding world.
Having a POSITIVE MINDSET can help us to be happy
A negative mind doesn’t certainly create happiness, that’s why to be happy we need to create a positive mindset.
Having a positive mindset doesn’t mean that we don’t have any negative feelings or emotions, this certainly will never happen. It means not to dwell on negative feelings but try to be positive most of the time.
But how can we create a positive mindset? It all starts with our thoughts, they create our emotions and even if sometimes we don’t realize they create our life.
You can also read:
– Are you smiling enough? How often are you smiling?
– Are you laughing enough? When is the last time you had a good laugh?
If you think you are not smiling or laughing enough daily, I really suggest you start wearing your smile in the morning!
Having LOVE in our life can help us to be happy
The first step is to love ourselves and our body before we can love someone else.
In fact, Happiness is feeling good about who we are, be able to accept ourselves how we physically are, our body should be treated as our temple since thanks to our body we are able to live our life. Only when things start going wrong and we have some healthy issue, do we realize how important our body is. There are some fundamental and basic steps to follow if we really care about our body, but unfortunately, they can be easy put aside and not giving the right importance.
Some times when we start following these simple suggestions they can have a strong positive impact in our life.
- Eat well, we are what we eat.
- Sleep the right amount of time.
- Do some daily physical activity. 20 minutes of walking.
- Get rid off some bad habits that can abuse our body (smoking, drinking, bad addictions). If you need some help, don’t be afraid to ask for professional help.
- Another important way to be happy is to dedicate some time during the day to ourselves, to do something that we really like, could be anything but must be our time.
Once we start loving ourselves it becomes much easier to love someone else.
You might like to read: Loving ourselves and having a High self-esteem can help us to be happier.
Having a partner, can add love in our life, but having love in our life could be, any kind of love:
- Love our friends
- Love our family and children
- Love our job
- Love our hobby
- Love our pets.
If we give space for love in our life it can certainly make our life much happier and when Love is missing in our life, it’s more likely we are unhappy.
Be SOCIAL can help us to be happy
Even if I totally agree with the following quote, “If you make friends with yourself you’ll never be alone” I am absolutely convinced that we need to have friends and we need to spend time with people, but not just with some people, they must be the right people for us.
What I mean is that the people we spend time with, must be people that make us feel good, appreciate us and respect us.
“True friends are like stars, you don’t always see them but they are always there.”
“Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour”.
Since I started choosing the people around me, my life has improved, so choose your friends wisely.
Surround yourself with positive people and you’ll be a positive person.
So even if we are happy with ourselves, it’s never really good to isolate ourselves from society. We need to find our “tribe”, in other words people suitable to us, we need to have good friends!
Spending time with people can helps us to learn and grow.
Having a PURPOSE in Life can help us to be Happy
I personally realized that having a purpose gives you an entirely new vision in life.
When I decided that I wanted a purpose in my life it took me a while to understand what purpose I wanted, so I took my time in making my decision.
Then finally I decided that my purpose would have been “be happy in life” and later I decide to start helping people, that were struggling like I was, to be happy as well. I believe that was the best decision I made in my life.
There are two ways to live our life, the first, which is the one chosen by most people, is to live a life without a purpose, the second is to define your purpose and live by it.
I can say that I tried both ways to live my life and I found the second one is definitely more fulfilling and that lead to a happy life.
Benefits of having a purpose in life
- Makes you feel more fulfilled
- It creates your daily life with enthusiasm and joy
- It gives you direction and focus
- It helps you understand what is unimportant for you in life and it frees you from things that don’t matter
- It helps you to gain your success.
We all want to achieve success in life but we all have a different meaning of success. There are people that want be rich, famous, important or have a nice job, a nice family. But if we stop and think the reasons why we all want to reach our success is to be happy. Yes, the main reason why we want to achieve our success is because it makes us happy.
So do you have a purpose in life? If not, there is no need to worry, you can still find your purpose in life.
Here are some quotes from famous and successful people about having a Purpose in Life
“When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.” Seneca
“Having a purpose is the difference between making a living and making a life.” Tom Thiss
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” John F. Kennedy
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” Dalai Lama
“True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” Helen Keller
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score” – Bill Copeland
Doing something GOOD to others can make us happy
I personally found doing something good to help people is very rewarding and it definitely makes me feel very good and happy.
As we have seen in step 3 Happiness is a state of mind, and is created by positive and good emotions. All we need to do then is to create positive and good emotions, and doing something good is definitely one of them.
So don’t be afraid in doing something good and when you do, most of all, don’t expect anything back, because wea are likely to be disappointed.
You already get your reward when you see the reactions from the people you have helped.
Here are some quotes from famous and successful people about Doing Good to the others
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” Dalai Lama
“The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others.” Albert Schweitzer
Spiritual Engagment can help be Happy
It’s quite common that people follow spiritual paths and join religious organizations primarily to become happier and interestingly enough, studies demonstrate a close link between religious and spiritual engagement (practice) and happiness.
I personally followed a spiritual path, which I started years ago when I discovered Reiki.
If you don’t know what Reiki is I suggest you read my article on my LifeCoaching website, What is Reiki
I also love practicing Yoga.
Spirituality and prayer also provide people with an opportunity to engage in a meditative act and Meditation has been shown to have a strong link with well-being because it calms the body, reduces stress and anxiety, and also supports positive thinking.
Meditation now is part of my daily life and having seen all the benefits from meditation, I can’t see myself not meditating.
You might also like to read: Why is meditation so important and why it can help us to feel happier?
How to Be happy in 7 Steps: Step seven – Understand the reasons why we are unhappy
- – What is happiness and how to be always happy in life?
- – Step One – Happiness is a choice
- – Step Two – Happiness is an attitude of mind
- – Step Three – Happiness is a state of mind
- – Step Four – Gratitude is the key to Happiness
- – Step Five – Happiness is in the present moment
- – Step Six – Happiness Triggers
- – Step Seven – Understand the reason why we are unhappy