What is Happiness and How to Be Happy in 7 Steps

What is happiness and how to be always happy in life?

It’s a question I asked myself many times and probably it was one of the first questions that pushed me to begin my personal development journey which I decided to start over ten years ago.

So what is Happiness?

We can find a lot of different definitions for Happiness, in fact, Happiness can have a different meaning for any of us.

If we look for a definition in a dictionary is more likely we find something like: “the state of being happy”, with being happy: “feeling or showing pleasure or contentment”, but obviously each of us has a different way to get pleasure.

Let’s start with a quote that for me is one of my best definition for happiness.

 It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.” Charles Spurgeon

In fact, the happiest people don’t have the best of everything , they just make the best of everything.

Happiness is a journey

So why some people are happy all the time?

Happy people focus on what they have when unhappy people focus on what’s missing.

Have you ever met a happy person, I mean a really happy person?

I think you probably did. I personally remember, when I was still struggling to be happy, and I was meeting happy people you could tell from miles, they were really happy. They had a really big smile on their face, always in a good mood and ready to laugh and have fun and you could feel their presence, their energy just entering in a room.

I used to, and to be honest still now, feel attracted to them. I remember that I used to feel good in their presence, in fact happiness can be contagious  while at that time I used to have ups and downs and some times I was really annoyed with myself…

Anyway going back to the happy people, I even used to be impressed when watching some documentaries on tv, they were showing really poor people that they were just the image of happiness. I was really wondering how could that be possible…

Not having an answer, I was just thinking that they were born like that….they were born happy people. It wasn’t really a good answer to me but sometimes  we need to find some excuses to make us feel better.

Now I realized that this can be true that some people might be “born” happy. It’s very important the environment we live in during the first years of our life. Our family, our teachers, our first friends have got an important part of our formation, when we are kids we absorb everything like a sponge. We start understanding what is right and what is wrong, we start creating our beliefs and even unfortunately limited beliefs, beliefs that are not really true but we don’t know that because they are just presented to us as true.

So if we were lucky to be born in a nice and safe environment, with happy people around that supported us, stimulated us and taught us the importance of some good values, we are more likely to have a nice life and be happy.

But if were born in a distressed environment, it’s more likely our life is not going to be an easy one unless we do something about it.

It’s a kind of luck… we obviously can’t choose where to be born…

The good thing is wherever we are born, whatever childhood we had, when we grow up we all have the opportunity to be in charge of our life and be happy.

If we don’t know how to do it, we can still learn how to be happy.  So far we have learnt a lot of things, walking, talking, writing, etc, so if we are not happy why not learn how to be Happy? I did, and I can’t see any reasons why anyone else can’t do it.

I've never met a strong person with an easy past.

I am stronger because of my hard times, wiser because of my mistakes and happier because of my sad experiences.

So one day I decided I had enough of feeling like that and I decided it was time to turn my life around and so I started my personal development journey and here I am, a happy person.

Be a happy person, live a happy life, it doesn’t mean we will not encounter problems in our life and we are happy 24/7, that’s quite impossible, I would say. The most important thing is to learn not to dwell on problems so we can spend most of the time with a happy state of mind.

Life is full of habits, let’s make Happiness one of them.

How can we do that? How can we be happy?

I have created “7 steps on how to be happy, which are the results of my personal experience and I am very happy to present them to you now:

If this has worked for me I can’t see why it shouldn’t work for you, as long as you are prepared to take action, take charge of your life, stop blaming other people and realize that we are the only one responsible for our life.

If you are not happy with your life, you need to make some changes, you can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results.

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

I am going to share with you now how I managed to become a happy person in 7 simple steps.

How to be happy in 7 steps

Meet the Author


Inspiring People to Be Happy. Blogger, Life Coach, Reiki Master.

11 comments… add one
  • Great post! This was a well-written and very helpful. Keep up the good work and I wish you all the best.-Chris Thompson

    • Hi Chris!
      Thank you for your nice words! Take care and… be Happy! 🙂

  • Akash Tyagi

    very nice post, I have a similar post , http://www.mrkaku.com/10-ways-to-be-happy/

    If you like please link it.. thank you

  • Thank you and good luck with what you are doing



  • Marija

    I’m not happy, I lost my father, I took it everything I had and gave it to another person, forget what we had done for him, my father is a total idiot, now I know how evil the world has experienced to enjoy a strange accident, can not to stop tears flowing when I am alone, only my children give me strength so as not to leave small ones alone to fight with life,I hope that they will find their happiness someday, and I will never stand on their way to her. I love you so much, I hope that I will live long enough to help you, I do not want to give anything to me; I just want to see you happy, that will be my greatest reward.

    • Duccio Duccio

      Hi Marija
      I am so sorry to hear you are not happy.
      Don’t lose hope, I am sure everything will get better soon.
      Take care

  • Joseph Ostopak

    I think of my youth with my parents and I am happy.

    • Duccio Duccio

      Hi, Joseph
      thanks for sharing it with us!
      Take care and… Be Happy!

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