What is happiness and how to be happy in life?
It’s a question I asked myself many times and probably it was one of the first questions that pushed me to begin my personal development journey which I decided to start over ten years ago.
So what is Happiness in life?
We can find a lot of different definitions for Happiness, in fact, Happiness can have a different meaning for any of us.
If we look for a definition in a dictionary is more likely we find something like: “the state of being happy”, with being happy: “feeling or showing pleasure or contentment”, but obviously each of us has a different way to get pleasure.
Let’s start with a quote that for me is one of my best definition of happiness.
In fact, the happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.
So why some people are happy all the time?
Have you ever met a happy person, I mean a really happy person?
I think you probably did. I personally remember, when I was still struggling to be happy, and I was meeting happy people you could tell from miles, they were really happy. They had a really big smile on their face, always in a good mood and ready to laugh and have fun and you could feel their presence, their energy just entering a room.
I used to, and to be honest still now, feel attracted to them. I remember that I used to feel good in their presence, in fact, happiness can be contagious while at that time I used to have ups and downs and sometimes I was really annoyed with myself…
Anyway going back to the happy people, I even used to be impressed when watching some documentaries on tv, they were showing really poor people that they were just the image of happiness. I was really wondering how could that be possible…
Not having an answer, I was just thinking that they were born like that….they were born happy people. It wasn’t really a good answer to me but sometimes we need to find some excuses to make us feel better.
Now I realized that this can be true that some people might be “born” happy even if also I believe that we were all born with the capacity of being happy but unfortunately, it faded away by the time we were growing up.
In fact, it’s very important the environment we live in during the first years of our life.
Our family, our teachers, our first friends have got an important part of our formation when we are kids we absorb everything like a sponge.
We start understanding what is right and what is wrong, we start creating our beliefs and even, unfortunately, limited beliefs, beliefs that are not really true but we don’t know that because they are just presented to us as true.
So if we were lucky to be born in a nice and safe environment, with happy people around that supported us, stimulated us and taught us the importance of some good values and principles, we are more likely to have a nice life and be happy.
But if were born in a distressed environment, it’s more likely our life is not going to be an easy one unless we do something about it.
It’s a kind of luck… we obviously can’t choose where to be born…
If we don’t know how to do it, we can still learn how to be happy. So far we have learned a lot of things, walking, talking, writing, etc, so if we are not happy why not learn how to be Happy? I did, and I can’t see any reasons why anyone else can’t do it.
So one day I decided I had enough of feeling like that and I decided it was time to turn my life around and so I started my personal development journey and here I am, a happy person.
Be a happy person, live a happy life, it doesn’t mean we will not encounter problems in our lives and we are happy 24/7, that’s quite impossible, I would say.
The most important thing is to learn not to dwell on problems so we can spend most of the time with a happy state of mind.
What is Happiness for me?
Before I jump on talking about the 7 Steps I have created to have more happiness in our life, I would like first to give my definition of Happiness.
My happiness is
When I feel calm, in peace with myself and connected to the surroundings.
I can then appreciate and value all the small things, feel grateful for what I have and what I am.
I can live in the moment because the past and the future are not disturbing me anymore.
This is what happiness is for me, a state of mind I can create that can nurture my body and my soul.
Life is full of habits, let’s make Happiness one of them.
How can we do that? How can we be happy?
I have created “7 steps on how to be happy”, which are the results of my personal experience and I am very happy to present them to you now:
If this has worked for me I can’t see why it shouldn’t work for you, as long as you are prepared to take action, take charge of your life, stop blaming other people and realize that we are the only one responsible for our life.
If you are not happy with your life, you need to make some changes, you can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results.
I am going to share with you how I managed to become a happy person in 7 simple steps.
How to be happy in 7 steps