Are you in a relationship? How happy are you? Would you like to be happier?
In this post, I am going to give my suggestions on how to be happy in a sentimental relationship.
First of all, I believe that, if we want to be happy in a relationship or we are looking for a relationship, we first need to learn to be happy alone, love ourselves and be in charge of our life. Remember Happiness comes from within.
1 Before we can love someone else, the first step is to love ourselves.
If we do not love ourselves, we can have problems in loving someone else, being loved, we can run the risk to be manipulated and consequently live an unhealthy and unhappy relationship.
Sometimes it can happen you love someone to the point that we can easily forget about ourselves, which I believe can be dangerous because we can end up losing our identity. What do I mean about that? When we love someone “too much” we do everything to make the other person happy and so we can easily forget what we want and who we are.
I am not saying not to love someone “too much”, what I am saying is, when you love someone “don’t forget to love yourself too“.
You are as important as the person you love.
You might also like to read: “Loving ourselves and having a High self-esteem can help us to be happier.”
2 The best way to be happy with someone is to learn how to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice and not a necessity.
As I have mentioned other times, the first step to take, for creating a happy life, is to be in charge of ourselves. Happiness is a choice and comes from within and we should never put the Key To our Happiness in somebody else’s pocket.
If we learn to be happy alone, we will choose our partner under a different context.
If we need someone, if we depend on them, and so on, we are not in control of ourselves and in control of our life and potentially we are in a dangerous situation because if our partner decides to end the relationship, we are in trouble…
You might also like to read: To live a happy life we need to be in charge of ourselves.
Now here are my other suggestions on how to be happier in a sentimental relationship
It is not possible to be happy all the time, but, if we want and we do something about that, we can be happy most of the time.
Our sentimental relationship should help us to feel good and satisfied. If we feel anxious, sad, or angry often when we are with our partner, then there is something wrong in our relationship and we need to do something about that.
# 3 Communicate Openly.
One of the things that will help you with creating a happier relationship is a better communication.
Do you communicate enough with your partner? A clear communication is very important because you can avoid misunderstanding which creates problems and arguments.
If you don’t let your partner know what you like or what you don’t like, obviously he or she is not going to know.
# 4 Listen
A clear communication doesn’t only mean talking, but also listening. You might also like to read: Can Effective Listening improve the Happy Level of our Life?
Listen more than you talk.
How much are you listening to your partner?
“The first duty of love is to listen.” Paul Tillich
“When you Talk you are only Repeating what you know; but when Listen, you may Learn something new.” Dalai Lama
We are all unique with different points of view. It’s impossible that we are going to agree with our partner all the time, but we can be respectful and sometimes we can just agree to disagree.
# 5 Think before you speak
Before you say something important about something your partner did and you didn’t like it or you think it was wrong, Stop and Think for few seconds.
How would you feel if your partner Said it to you?
We can say something in many different ways, choose a polite and clear way to express yourself. If you start in an aggressive way, it is more likely that instead of having a normal discussion you will have a big argument.
# 6 Respect your partner
Respect is another caterpillar in any relationships not only those sentimental.
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” Bryant H. McGill
“If they don’t respect you, respect yourself and leave that situation.”
Without Respect, there is no Love.
# 7 Don’t try to change your partner
You Can’t Change People, either Accept Who They are or Start Living Life Without Them.
# 8 Apologize when you do something wrong
Apologize when you realize and you know you have done something wrong. Put your pride in your pocket, say sorry and explain the reason why you did that. Your partner has got the right to know why.
But, don’t be like that person that keep doing something wrong and get into the habit of apologizing all the time. Apologizing obviously is good, but after a while, it doesn’t mean anything anymore if you keep making the same mistake.
Don’t make “Sorry” become a cheap 5 letters word.
If you or your partner keep repeating the same mistake, it means there is something wrong, something needs to be changed and it has to be discussed.
# 9 Be Honest
Be open and honest about who you are and what you want.
Tell the truth, even when it is difficult and you will be a happier person.
You won’t be filled with guilt or worry that the truth will one day come out.
Remember, you can not have a healthy relationship with people who are wearing a mask.
# 10 Don’t be selfish
Don’t be Selfish, the world doesn’t revolve around you.
Also, mind your own Ego.
Ego is just a small 3 letter word which can destroy a big 12 letter word called RELATIONSHIP…..
# 11 Don’t take things for granted
Don’t take your partner for granted.
Give a compliment, do something nice to your partner. Doesn’t have to be a big thing, just small daily things to remind your partner you appreciate him/her.
Don’t be afraid to express your feelings of appreciation with your partner.
Don’t take your relationship for granted, remember, someone somewhere out there will be glad to take your place.
# 12 Spend time together
Spend some time together, also in the open air, doing some exercises, walking, jogging.
Laugh, have fun, share a new experience together, spend some happy time together.
# 13 Reciprocal encouragement
Couples in a happy relationship should support and encourage each other, so they can bring out the best in each other.
# 14 Have your own space
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean a couple has to spend all the time together. It is very important also to have our own space, our own friends.
If you can afford and you have time, take a few days holiday.
A relationship, to be happy and stable, should be based on trust.
# 15 Have sex
Last but not least, make time for intimacy.
More sex can mean more joy.
Having sex not only have plenty of healthy benefits but can also help you forget your troubles and make you feel happier!
Here I am at the end of this post where I have given my suggestions on how to be happy or happier in a sentimental relationship.
Did you find any interesting tips? If yes, it’s time for you to take action and put it in practice to make your relationship happier.
Wish you all a Happy Relationship!
Be You – Be Kind – Love – Be Happy!