Happiness is a choice, our choice

Step 1. First of all, we need to understand that Happiness is a choice, our choice.

Yes, Happiness is a choice, we have got the choice on how we want to live our life.

It doesn’t really matter the circumstances in our life, we have still got the choice to live an unhappy life, at the mercy of our emotions, events etc., which could be quite miserable sometimes, or we can choose to live a happy life, be a happy person, whatever the circumstances are, the choice is ours.

Happiness is a kind of choice that we make and create for ourselves. It is not something that depends on other people or getting their approval.

In reality, the level of our life’s happiness has nothing to do with the things that other people say or do, even if we feel like it.

Happiness is not something that we capture through the affirmation or actions of others. We can be inspired by others, but Happiness comes from within.

I am in charge of how I feel, today I choose Happiness

 I am in charge of how I feel, today I choose Happiness

Nothing will make us Happy until we choose to be Happy!

Can we really make up our mind to be happy?

The answer is YES.

The empowered happiness mindset is set on the principle that despite the things that happen to us or whatever dire circumstances we might be in today, we can still be happy.

At the end of the day, it’s all about making a decision, the right one, if we don’t choose to be a happy person, it’s like indirectly we have made a decision to be a person that doesn’t give importance to happiness, therefore, the moments of happiness might not be many…

As we will see in the next step Happiness is also an attitude of mind and we have got the choice to have a wrong attitude that takes us to having a not easy and unpleasant life or we can make the decision to have a good attitude through life. A good attitude can create happiness, I let you think what a bad attitude can create… Once again the choice is ours.

We can start to be happy any moment we want, all we need to do is make a decision, choose to be happy, write it down on paper in capitals: “I decide I want to be happy”, “from now on I am going to be happy person, no matter what”.

It has to be a clear and conscious decision and nothing like “I would like to be happy or I wish to be happy” these are just wishes…. and they are not taking us anywhere.

Once we have made the decision to be a happy person, then we need to do whatever it takes to be happy. Happiness is a journey.

It’s a bit like when we start a fire, if we don’t fan the fire, the fire at one point will die. So once we have turned our happiness on, which I like to think of as a candle, we need to keep it on, otherwise, it will die, this is something we will see in the next few steps.

The good thing is the:

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha

Happiness, monks jumping from joy

So if we make a decision to live a happy life, no matter what life can present to us, is more likely we will have a happy life, because this is what we want and because we don’t want to accept anything else. It is our choice, we have made a decision and we want to stick to it.

Once we have understood and accepted that happiness comes from within, it is not impossible to be happy even during the toughest of times because we already know how we should hold on to those good times and chase all the bad away.

With an empowered happiness mindset, we will know how we should let life to happen and stay open to wallowing in the bliss of happiness whatever our circumstances might be.

It is never too late to make happiness your choice of life

Happiness is a choice

One of the first thing we need to understand and accept if we want to live a happy life, is that Happiness is a choice. Let that sink in.

A lot of people find this notion hard to believe simply because they have gone through so many challenges in their lives that they most probably have been close to giving up on happiness altogether and probably because they give a wrong meaning to happiness. (What Happiness is Not)

Whatever you went through in your life, you need to remember, that it is never too late to make happiness your choice.

Making the choice

Starting down the path of attaining happiness is done by simply telling yourself that happiness is a choice you are willing to make and commit to. Arguably, making this choice is the biggest and most important step that you can take to being happy. Studies show that a person can greatly affect their perspective in life by changing their attitudes and mindsets about things.

The act of making the choice is done by looking deep into yourself: realize and appreciate the little things that make you feel peace and, at the same time, clearly define to yourself those that do not. (Things we need to let go to be happy)

Happiness is a state of being

A lot of people tend to make a list of things they would like to achieve (end goals, if you may). While the practice in itself is not bad, it may affect the way you think about the practice altogether.

Sometimes, making a list gives the impression that, unless you have reached these goals, you are not allowing yourself to be happy.

Instead, reflect on your life and ask yourself this question: What are the things that make me smile these days?

No matter how small they may be, give yourself a little time each morning and appreciate these things. Remember: a key contributing factor to being happy is having a positive attitude towards your day the moment you wake up.

Happiness is a choice – so is sadness

A lot of people lose sight of their happiness because of the tension the daily grind brings. Money, work, relationships, even traffic can be cause for you to feel down. A single instance of such may not be that hard, but constantly and consistently exposing yourself to these is an act on itself of choosing sadness.

Being busy is nice. Being overly busy is a bad thing. Why not go for a vacation or a break? Giving yourself some time to breathe and reflect will do you a lot of good.

Keep your friends and family close

Another great example of attaining and maintaining happiness is by expressing your gratitude. Happiness is near impossible if you are selfish about it.

There are a lot of people out there in the world who have riches and fame to their name but have no happiness to claim at all. Always be thankful for the people around you. Better yet, thank them and tell them how exactly they have been a contributor to your happiness.

Not only does this affirm the validity of your happiness with yourself, this also makes the people around you happy.

A study on happiness conducted by Dr. Robert Waldinger has suggested that maintaining good relationships is, at the very least, a major contributor to a person’s happiness. The study was conducted by periodically interviewing their participants about their life over the course of 75 years. It was shown that happiness is rooted to how much we invest on the people we consider as essential to our being, as well as those who invest in ourselves.

In hindsight, this gives a deeper meaning to the phrase “no man is an island”.

Hard work pays off

Nothing good in life comes easy — happiness is no exception.

Happiness is a choice you have to commit to. Difficult choices must be made at certain points in your life if you wish to maintain it. Are you in an abusive relationship? You might want to part ways for the benefit of your soul. Do you feel like there is nothing else for you at work? Maybe it is time to reconsider.

It is always best for you to move on and take on challenges than to let fear grip your heart that sit and wallow in complacency.

Take it slow

Happiness is a choice you decide on in a fraction of a second. Working on it takes an entire lifetime.

Take it slow; stop and smell the roses along the way. Try not to rush yourself into getting to your definition of happiness. Mistakes may happen along the way and that is fine! That is life’s way of teaching you a lesson about your choice. These moments are best spent slowly, thinking and understanding why life treated you that way.

Stay in control… or not

In many cases, people fall into a state of anxiousness because of their constant need to stay in control. Now, a lot of people are not aware of this.

The next time you are feeling anxious about something, why don’t you ask yourself this question: is this something I can control?

If your answer to the question is no, respect the outcome as it is.

If the answer is yes, however, commit to figuring out a way to control it. Examples of things you cannot control are other people’s emotions. Introspectively, you can control yours. Do not set yourself up for failure by always looking into taking control.

In conclusion, happiness is a choice that revolves around how you manage yourself around the environment you are currently in. Always be grateful and generous to the people who make you smile. Never try to take control of things beyond your understanding and always take the time to savor and appreciate the little things that brighten up your day.

Below I have listed some quotes from famous and successful people on “Happiness is a choice“:

Happiness is a choice” Quotes

“I believe happiness is a choice. Some days it is a very difficult choice.” Steve Gleason

Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.” Aeschylus

Scientifically, happiness is a choice. It is a choice about where your single processor brain will devote its finite resources as you process the world. “Shawn Achor

“I think happiness is a choice. If you feel yourself being happy and can settle in to the life choices you make, then it’s great. It’s really, really great. I swear to God, happiness is the best makeup.” Drew Barrymore

“Happiness is the first principle of life. Happiness basically means well-being. It is always good and always a choice… We need to make the choice to be happy in a particular situation, just as it is, and at a given moment.” Alexandra Stoddard

“You can undo a lot of things. If you’re not happy, you can become happy. Happiness is a choice. That’s the thing I really feel.” Jennifer Aniston

Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not.” Valerie Bertinelli

“My message is that happiness is the first principle of life. But you must choose it. We all have pain, but suffering is a choice. You can be happier if you make some changes in your life.” Alexandra Stoddard

“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel

Let’s choose to be Happy and let’s share the Happiness!!

 

How to Be happy in 7 Steps: – Step two – Happiness is an attitude of mind



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Duccio
Duccio

Inspiring People to Be Happy. Blogger, Life Coach, Reiki Master.

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  • I love each article you share is good to have this kind of articles to help us to be positive in every thoughts that come into our mines Thanks

    • Hi Miranda, you are very welcome and… Thank you!! 🙂

  • Hi Duccio,
    Everything in this article is true, but in my opinion people who are around you have great influence on that what you feel. If individuals who surround you motivate you every day, give you a hand when you need it, are helpful – it’s much easier to be happy than when you are among folks who always complain about everything but not themselves.

    • Hi.
      Oh yes, I agree with you, it’s much easier to be happy when we are with happy and positive people.
      Sometimes we can’t… and we have to deal with negative and whining people.
      But if we learn how to be in charge of our happiness, of our emotions and not to let people ruin our inner peace, than we are ok… because we are in charge of ourselves.
      Thanks for your comment 🙂

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