Have you ever underestimated the power of your thoughts?
If so, you are probably losing 90% of what you could potentially achieve in your life.
But don’t worry, you’re not alone, in our society, unfortunately, human thoughts are often relegated to the level of fantasy and extravagance and it’s perhaps for this reason only a small percentage of us is really happy and content with our lives.
Thoughts instead are very important because they have the power to shape our lives and also create our Happiness
“We are what we think.” Buddha
Yes, that’s right our lives and happiness come from our own thoughts and consequently, it’s very important we select our own thoughts.
But how can our thoughts create our life and our happiness?
When events happen, we react according to the state of mind we are in at that particular moment, in fact, our behavior in life is the result of the state we’re in.
Whatever we do in our life or whatever happen to us in our life, it’s what we thought about that particular situation, event, person, circumstance etc that is important, it all starts from there, it creates how we feel.
Our life is the result of our feelings, we make decisions based on how we feel, we react to situations on base how we feel.
Does it make sense?
If we are angry and something happens, we react in a certain way, but if we are happy we might react in a different way.
So if most of the time we think of something negative, we will create a negative emotion and, accordingly, a negative state of mind. A negative state of mind means periods or moments of unhappiness.
Of course, the opposite is also true if we spend more time with positive thoughts, we create more positive emotions and consequently a positive mental state = moments or periods of happiness.
So we have the power to decide whether we want to be happy, just choosing our thoughts. How to replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts
It’s very important to keep us on a positive frequency.
How can we choose our thoughts and be positive?
It might look like a hard job, but instead, it’s very simple.
First of all, we can differentiate thoughts in dominant and non-dominant thoughts.
What are the dominant thoughts?
Dominant thoughts are thoughts that take a lot of space in our minds because they are recurring thoughts, have the power to create our emotions and have far-reaching consequences in our lives. Dominant thoughts take two forms: affirmative thoughts and negative thoughts.
What are the not dominant thoughts?
The not dominant thoughts are minor and superficial thoughts that come and go and don’t really create a big impact in how we feel.
Our goal is to take control of our dominant thoughts because these thoughts are always with us, even when we are sleeping, these thoughts permeate our being.
The first step now is to unlearn.
But what do we have to unlearn? The answer is simple: we must unlearn the common belief that thoughts do not have a direct impact on our reality and instead start believing that can shape our life. Like for everything “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” Theodore Roosevelt
Before we go through the second step, to help you to accept and believe this concept about the importance of positive thinking, I have listed below some quotes from famous and successful people
Creating Happiness with our thoughts – Quotes
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” Norman Vincent Peale
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” Willie Nelson
“Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.” Soren Kierkegaard
“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.” Swami Vivekananda
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” Buddha
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” Marcus Aurelius
“Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings – always darker, emptier and simpler.” Friedrich Nietzsche
“We are what we think. All that we arise with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Buddha
“Our life is what our thoughts make it.” Marcus Aurelius
Once we have fully accepted and understood this concept, we need to make a decision to choose to be positive, remember even Happiness is a choice, one of the many choices we have in life. If we don’t choose to have positive thinking, it’s like having made a decision not to be positive.
After we have made the choice to be positive and we are committed to it, we then can start working on how to create a positive cycle of thoughts.
The first thing to do is to recognize our main negative thoughts and discover their triggers.
What is a trigger? It’s something that starts our negative thoughts, is like a switch, we think of something and then we start to be negative.
There are also triggers for positive thinking. In “step 6 How to Be Happy” I have listed some Happiness triggers,
We need then to question our triggers, question the reason we started thinking negative. Question our triggers makes them become weaker and lose power. If we are sure about something, we don’t question it, when we start questioning something, it means we are not so sure about that anymore.
Then we need simply to associate some positive thoughts.
Let’s make an example.
A friend of mine, when she was a teenager, her father was involved in a serious car accident when he was on his way to pick her up from school. Obviously, he didn’t manage to pick her up on time and so she had to spend some time waiting for someone to pick her up unaware of the situation. She told me that when she grew up every time someone was late for an appointment with her, she felt very uneasy and the negative thoughts were kicking in. As we well know, a thought attracts another thought, it’s like a chain, a bit like the domino effect continues. A positive thought attracts a positive thought, and a negative thought attracts a negative thought, so every time she was ending up in a negative state. It’s only when she realized that the negative thoughts attached to that trigger were not rational because she questioned them, she managed to eliminate that negative habit. She questioned her reaction and she decided that she wanted to associate the memory of that event with something positive. She decided to associate that memory to the fact that despite having had a terrible accident, her father survived. So now she told me that every time someone is late, she takes the opportunity to practice Gratitude, be grateful that her father survived and she manages to not only to stay positive but she manages to make herself feel good. Let’s not forget that Gratitude is the key to happiness.
That was just an example, all of us can have main negative thoughts that can affect our life, it was just a way to explain how to simply turn some negative thoughts in positive thoughts.
Now I suggest you take a piece of paper and list your main negative thoughts, then next to each one find out your main triggers and write them down. Then what you simply need to do is to associate some positive thoughts to each trigger.
Another important ingredient to becoming a positive and happy person is the desire.
The desire is the driving force that makes the difference in any changes we want to make in our life. The biggest is our desire, the easier we can achieve what we want.
How big is our desire to be positive and happy?
The good thing is when we begin this new positive cycle of thinking, we start to have a clear direction and also a clearer vision of what we want to achieve.
Choosing to be a positive person is one of the ingredients to be a happy person. I don’t think a negative person can have a happy life, but can have some moment of happiness, or better moments of joy and pleasure.
Once we learn to control our thoughts and choosing positive thoughts, we can start to be in control of our mind.
If we are in control of our mind, then we are in control of our lives.
Being in control of our own mind implies the full awareness of all the thoughts created on a daily basis. There is awareness and there must also be a certain degree of control.
Any form of meditation on a daily basis can help clear our mind, be positive and be in control of our thoughts.
Why try meditation, in the first place?
Well, we are often plagued by a ‘fog’ of confused thoughts on a daily basis. We have many concerns and issues that often, we lose track of our important things in life.
We need to clear our mind of these confusing thoughts, because only then we can begin to create affirmative thoughts to manifest the things we love in life.
When we begin to create new affirmative thoughts, comes a renewed version of ourselves. This new version of us will focus on the things we really need in life and is no longer strictly bound by the small matters of everyday life.
We will not be stressed out about what to cook for dinner, we will not be plagued by the quirks of your co-workers or the annoying behavior of your boss or project manager. We will be above all these problems because we will have a new mission in life: to manifest ideal conditions in life and be happy.
Keep in mind that changing from a negative to a positive way of thinking, obviously, it depends on a person, can take time. It’s also very common sometimes to go back to our old and bad habit of being negative, but don’t worry and don’t be hard on yourself. If does happen, restart more focus on your final desire: to be happy.
In the next article, I will talk about how to switch to affirmative thoughts using some affirmative cues.
Simple Tips how to create a positive cycle of thoughts.
- When you wake up, start wearing your smile and remind yourself you want to be a positive and happy person. You might also like reading: How to start a day in a good and happy way.
- Have fun, have some laugh, it lifts the spirit. You might also like reading: The power of Laughter.
- Avoid negative people. Surround yourself with positive people and you’ll be a positive person.
- Read inspirational and positive material.
- Recognize and replace negative thoughts.
The most important benefits of positive thinking:
- It brings more happiness into our life.
- It’s good for our health. Researchers have found that our mind can have a powerful effect on our body and particularly on our immune system.
- Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.
- It helps you achieve goals and attain success.
- Lower rates of depression and distress.